To me, I’ve never been bothered by “slang” terms. I get upset when people say comments like “your pain isn’t that bad” . To me, Those comments are way more harmful.

I'm blind myself, and I personally could give two flips about the words people use. I'm more upset about how I have a hard time getting transportation because there is no bus in my town and very few crosswalks or sidewalks. This is what we should be focusing on, not policing language.

I'm blind in my right eye and I often hear the "are you blind?" comment (as well as dirty looks, sighs of exasperation etc)... when I advise "only in my right eye", most people feel like crap. why? because they were using it as an insult to basically say "you're in my way and watch what you're doing". The 'are you blind?' phrase itself doesn't bother me (because, yes, I am partially blind) when it's said TO me, but what does bother me is that the person MEANT to say it to an able-bodied person (fully sighted in this case) as an insult. Like: "only if you were blind would I accept that behavior but I can't see that you're blind so you're obviously just wasting my time". The most irritating part of the whole thing is that the entire exchange (and the person feeling like crap) could be avoided by using common courtesy such as simply saying "excuse me" if they want to get by, or speaking to the person to get their attention. (if dealing with someone who doesn't seem to hear you, moving slightly into their line of sight may help) Bottom line: don't be a jerk and you won't have to feel like crap if the person you're interacting with actually is blind/deaf/etc.

Dealing with a mental illness, I noticed many people would make jokes about getting anxiety attacks and being depressed. It would hurt because it felt like they had no grasp on how painful and hard it is to live with constant anxiety and depression that sometimes leaves me unable to leave my bed or my house.

I've never been offended by casual ableism. I think this takes it a bit over the top with the whole "lame", "Are you blind/deaf/crazy", although I hate when people say "I am so OCD with _____" and comparing yourself or someone else to a serious disorder as a joke. But I think that saying lame is offensive kind of takes it to a level that's a bit too high. And I'm technically lame. I actually had this conversation with a friend.

I have OCD and it makes it so hard to live normally. I can’t touch certain things, I can’t step on some stuff and I have terrible intrusive thoughts. I hate hearing “I’m so ocd about that!” When they mean that they are an organized person.

I have diagnosed adhd and anxiety non of these bother me

As someone who suffers from psychosis, hearing people use psycho in a condescending way makes me feel pretty uncomfortable as well as angry because I'm certainly not a bad person. I hate being lumped up with serial killers or abusers because of my disorder when I'm nothing like them. Also with the trigger thing: I suffer from severe PTSD and have a handful of triggers. Sometimes they're respected, but other times I'm dismissed entirely. It makes me feel like they're saying that what I went through wasn't "that bad" or shouldn't be taken seriously...

This is definitely something to keep in mind while I talk, although I don't use words like 'Gay, depressive, (and as I've seen being used more recently) Autistic' in a negative context I have used some of the phrases you talked about; and that is definitely something worth working around because I don't know who I could offend.

I have to say that I'm on the fence on this. On one hand, yes, words can hurt. On the other hand, languages shift constantly and the usage of many of these "slurs" has nothing to do with the disability. When we say "Are you blind?", we're not saying that the person has actually lost sight, or that being sightless makes you less of a human being, but rather that they're overlooking something. The usage of "lame" as "unconvincing" has a link to lamed animals being seen as lacking performance or even walking funny (c.f. "lame duck" conjuring up the image of the person waddling on), but that context has moved on. You'd might as well criticize the use of the word "dumb" because it might offend someone who doesn't speak, or to claim that one shouldn't say that "the speech fell on deaf ears" because there are people with hearing loss.

I have arthritic knees which cause me some pain when I walk. I suppose this makes me lame. However I’m not offended by the word “lame” because I’m not mental.

Even a blind man can see , is actually a hyperbole , it’s not insulting or meant to be insulting. It’s figurative.