Quickest Way To Live ln Your Truth ls to Be A Loner

I work with a few gay black men and they are so cruel and they do it unprovoked. I’ve even had them indirectly try to devalue me and compare to non black women via subliminal talk and it’s really painful. I felt my self esteem starting to lower. I have to work extra hard to keep my head and confidence up. I noticed when I dress down and wear a beanie with no makeup they don’t bother me. In conclusion I sense they are insecure and from the things they broadcast about them selves …they are not where they want to be in life and they are jealous. I also notice how mean they are to each other. It’s sad to see these toxic dynamics across gender and sexual orientation amongst black people.

Here in Atlanta, I feel an energy of pretentiousness from other black gays. When you are true to yourself completely, the fake ones fall off and the real ones stick around. Live all of your truth bro!

Hurt people, hurt people

Very true. But Chile that’s everybody. People want to show they are predator and never the prey and usually they do that by showcasing mean interiors. “ Imma get you before you get me vibes”.

I am an openly bisexual crossdresser and I get a lot of hate from "gay" guys, mostly passive aggressive nonsense, but I get treated like an outsider and gossiped about constantly.

You’re right. I call them Heather Chandler wannabe’s.

We need more peope like this in the LGBTQ community .am tired of these immature ,mean gays all over the place who thinks the world owe them something

My personal findings - I wont expand each point:

New subbie here. You have hit your the nail on the head with this topic. There are SO many men like this in the community. That has this mean girl attitude or mindset. I’ve recently experienced a situation that shows me who ppl really. Its just shows how miserable and bitter they really are in life. I am gay but I don’t feel safe around US at all. I stay to myself, work and mind my business. Thanks for speaking on this topic!

I agree and stay clear from those places and people. We have enough going on in life. That behavior just tells that they’re broken, hurting and don’t how to heal. Sometimes they act worse than straight people.

What i find is some gay men is mean very immature, jealous and superficial. This is why i stay away myself. I received so much hate for having confidence not arrogance. I totally agree with u. Its been rough for me to.

Hes so handsome

It's interesting because when I see other gays in "heterosexual" spaces, I'm very warm and welcoming. When I go to a gay club or gay event I'm the opposite. I'm guarded, and stay close to my inner circle. I'm not mean, but it can give off mean vibes when it's really me protecting my energy and trying to let the mean girls know, don't try it lol. It's weird. I've had guys come up to me and say I look mean, but once they engage, they have a completely different idea of who I am.

"As Proud Of Our Gayness, As We Are Proud Of Our Blackness."

Its already hard enough being black and gay... but what I hate the most is when folks put us all in one box, when all of us are so different (in the way we live our lives)

Raise your level of consciousness. It’s the best advice that works for me. Keep honoring and loving yourself. You will be fine

your're right it's pretty bad and hopefully we can collectively grow up and not focus on things that don't really affect us

You're not by yourself. Alot of us stay away from those who are catty. Most of them are usually messy bottoms, or verse bottoms. Gay men that carries themselves like men don't act like that. So it's all about finding those who think and act like you do. Which isn't always easy. But get yourself a partner who is like yourself, and let him be your friend. Good luck